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Mother's Day Good

I posted the last post before my kids made my day so much better.  Both were at work and hadn't given me anything so I thought that was pretty much they way it would be.  And to be clear I don't really care about bought gifts it's the thoughtful ones that I appreciate more, so spending a ton of money isn't necessary or wanted just a kind acknowledgement.   When I picked my son up he had bought a roast chicken for us to eat for supper so I didn't have to cook.  When the daughter got home from work she gave me a card and a Tim's gift card.  Later the daughter wanted to go get a McFlurry so I drove her and she bought me one too.

So even though some of my family were horrible my kids did save the day for me.  It's nice to have your kids show they love and appreciate you in any way.  I'm am so blessed to be a mom to two amazing young adults.

Happy Mother's Day

So here I sit on my own on Mother's Day.  Both kids are working and the husband too.  I did drive up to my mom's house to drop off her flowers (not cut flowers but a beautiful pot of flowers) and card.  My mistake was staying and having the life sucked out of me.  I should know better than to stick around too long with my younger sister and dad and mom.  My older sister and her daughter were outside planting the vegetable garden which they plant so they can eat the veggies.  My older sister has a huge yard but her partner won't let her plant a garden anymore so she has to use my parents garden now.

Anyway the level of rudeness and stupidity amazes me.  My dad doesn't understand language and is such a rude man that it's shocking.  When he can't understand something he just becomes a rude Ahole and yells.  Then there's my younger sister who thinks she's an expert on things she has little to no education on.  Did you know that white sugar is poison?  Um, o…

From 30 to 13 in a Day

The weather here has been hot.  In the 30'sC hot.  The daughter is begging for us to put the a/c in the window upstairs but we knew it wouldn't last long.  We had the hot temps for 3-4 days and then boom it's down to 13C.  Today it was 17C and raining.  I'm dreading the summer.  The long hot days and nights are oppressive and make me feel ill.  I end up not sleeping because it's so hot at night and by the time my body adjusts to the hot temps it's Fall and cooling down.  UG!

The daughter had a test hair style done for her Graduation/Prom.  We don't call grade 12 graduation Prom here but in the last few years everyone seems to be adopting the term from the US so not lots of people call the Graduation dinner/dance Prom.  Anyway the hairdresser my mom booked doesn't do "up hair styles"  So that was fine with the daughter because her hair is long and very thick.  Every hairdresser she has gone to has commented on how thick her hair is.  You can…

It Doesn't Help

You know those people who you tell your difficulties/worries to and they tell you to just forget about it and be happy.  Ya those people.  I have something to tell you.  Your advise doesn't help.  As a matter of fact it is like saying that whatever we feel is nothing and we are stupid for feeling that way.  You also assume that what we feel is so minor we can just leave it behind and be happy.  We wish that were true because if it were true we would not feel depressed or anxious anymore.  It's like telling a person with a broken leg to just walk it off and ignore it.  You wouldn't tell a physically challenged person that if they tried hard enough they could get out of their wheel chair and walk cause all they have to do is fake it to make it.

In fact for anyone with depression or anxiety issues we have probably tried to take your lame advise.  We have tried countless times to just forget about our problems and act like a normal person.  The problem is that when we are out…

March Fun

It's spring weather here.  We have no snow on the ground except for in the mountains.  We do get lots of rain instead of snow and I think I'd rather it be snow.  Rain is so depressing but snow is exciting, at least to me it is.

The son had to take a sick day because he wasn't feeling well.  He said he felt nauseous all night and had a headache.  He is not the kind of kid who takes sick days and rarely was off school so we know he was truly not feeling well.  I just hope he hasn't brought a nasty stomach virus home with him to infect the rest of us.  We live in a very small one bathroom house.  It's impossible not to catch what everyone else has because you have to share the bathroom with them and pretty much every other space. 

It's the husbands birthday Friday and I've made him a birthday cake as requested.  We are having spaghetti for supper as per his request also.  The son will be at work if he's feeling well enough so it will just be the daughter, …

Drafts and Posts

Once again I notice I am writing tons but not posting anything.  My drafts are piling up and my posts are few and far between.  So here's a post for the few who are interested in what I am up to.  The edited version would be "not much, as usual".  Then I would probably leave this as a draft and never post it.  But I'm going to post this no matter what.  There will probably even be a typo or worse a spelling error, gasp!  I may even split an infinitive or have a sentence run on.  But no one is really paying any attention to that stuff anyway, right....right?!

The son is doing well at his job, at least from what we can figure out.  They haven't fired him yet and he seems to enjoy working when he has work.  Unfortunately when you work at minimum wage jobs in a retail setting you may have to look busy when you aren't.  He's not fond of being bored at work so that's a good thing.  At least I hope it is and that it means he wants to be busy and working not …

Please Send Sanity

I am hanging onto my sanity with my fingertips here.  Life is throwing me too many curve balls all at once and I don't have the energy, money, or resources to deal with this all at once.  Why, does everything always go to crap when I start feeling like life is okay now.

Both kids have jobs and seem to be doing okay for now.  We were managing to get the bills paid and nothing major had broken, well until today that is.  I'm afraid that now the flood gate of crap has opening and it will just keep coming.

It starting with the washer agitator not really agitating the clothes.  It's broken.  I messed around with it and did some research and it's not fixable.  In the washer's defense it is 20 years old now so it's done it's time.  Too bad we don't have any money to buy a new or even a used one.  Guess we'll have to keep using the washer even if it doesn't really wash our clothes properly.

Then drove all the way to get cat food only to find out they do…

Life Hurts

There are days when I just wish I could toss all my physical and mental pain away and live a life without pain.  Like it's not bad enough that my body hurts so bad I sometimes don't move trying to keep the pain at bay but there is the mental pain.  I think these mental pains change depending on where you are in your life.  Like when you are a child there are all those mental pains over friendships, growing, and finding out who you are and what you can do.  There is heartache too that goes along with dating and love.  We think that once we find our true love that all our heartache will be over but really it's just beginning.

When we have children we ache for them when they hurt and try to help them through their problems.  We wish we could take all the pain away from them when in fact doing that would cripple them.  Pain, be it emotional of physical, is a fact of life.  When you are able to manage and get through tough times you become stronger and better at coping when the…

Small Miracle

It's finally happened and I can't be more thrilled!  The son has found a part-time job.  After over a year of doing almost nothing he will now have to go to work in a deli.  He doesn't start his training until the 19th.  The only thing I'm not thrilled about is I will probably be the one having to drive him back and forth to work.  Our bus system does not always have buses at all times of the day and none at night.  It's pretty hard to catch a bus when they are so few and far between.

Once we get a schedule for him we will take a look at the bus schedule and see if he can catch it some times.  This spring he is going to have to get his license because I will not be driving him to work forever.  The daughter will also have to get her license and then they can fight over our one crappy car.  Maybe we will be able to afford to get another car and have two between all four of us.  One can always dream.

I'm Doing Everything Wrong

That's the kind of day I'm having.  I'm sure we've all had them before.  Please tell me they go away soon cause I need to get on with doing stuff right, life is too short for all this wrong.

A Day in the Life

I hardly slept all night and was hoping I'd get to sleep in but alas that was not to be.  The phone jarred me out of a sound sleep at 7am and then cats wanting to be fed, having to go outside and my day had begun cause there was no way I could go back to sleep now when I was fully awake.

So I mentally adjusted my plans and thought I'd take a late shower and enjoy some quiet internet time.  Once again the phone interrupted my plans.  It was my mom phoning for some help with their driveway.  All that lovely snow we got is now fast melting and the snowplow had plowed the end of their driveway in with heavy ice balls.  They own a snowblower but you can't use it on that kind of snow.  So I woke up the son and we both threw on some clothes and off we drove to shovel all that heavy snow out of the end of their driveway so they could get their car out and make their afternoon appointment.  I have to say I did help a bit but 20 shovels of heavy snow defeated me and I ended up just …

A Cold Bug Got Me For New Year

My throat felt off on New Year's Eve but I thought it may be just irritated because our furnace has been running almost nonstop.  It's been cold but not unusually so, nothing below -10C mostly around -6C at night but even that means our furnace runs every 10 minutes just to keep the house at 15C.  I think I may turn the heat down to 14C tonight.  All that blowing dry air wreaks havoc with my sinuses.  I wish our house had some kind of insulation other than just air between the walls.

Now I have a full on cold with annoying cough.  Last night I was so hot I actually had to lay with no covers on for awhile.  Must have been a pretty good fever going on.  I survived to try to make some tea and soup.  The husband is home but never actually tries to help.  When anyone is sick I always make sure they get lots of orange juice, soup, tea, toast and whatever healthy foods they like.  I also am always giving them glasses of water to make sure they keep hydrated.  When I'm sick I'…

2016 is Here!

A brand new year is here finally.  I can say goodbye to 2015 which was an okay year but not great.  I don't make resolutions but I do have plans.  I guess that's kind of the same thing but in my mind plans are more likely to happen than resolutions which are always dropped within a couple of months.

This year the daughter graduates high school so we have that celebration to do.  Somehow we'll have to find the money for a dress and all the stuff like shoes, hair, make-up not to mention gifts.  She's still not sure if she wants to go to school right away after but I'll convince her to at least apply to a few places so she has an option to go if she wants to.  So many wonderful big changes for her this year.

For the son I just hope he finds a job soon.  He can't keep sitting in his room all the time.  He's a great kid if he just had a bit more drive he'd have it all.  I keep reminding myself that things work themselves out over time and not to get too upse…