My heart breaks for my daughter. She's 13 and having a hard time with her friends. She isn't being picked on or anything nasty she's just kind of being left behind. He best friend doesn't hang out with her very much anymore and is hanging out with other girls. So not only does my daughter have to struggle through the teen years and all the friendship crap but she's dirt poor too. She just can't keep up with what all the other girls are doing and that means no one really wants to hang out with her.
No one wants to come over here for a sleep over because my daughter's room is so small and the ceiling so steep that it's not particularly comfortable to hang out in her room. There is no where else to be in this house other than the small living room but that's where I am and sometimes her dad too. What teen wants to hang out with parents?
And all the other girls are doing fun things this summer but my daughter isn't. She's been sitting around the house for over a week now pretty bored. I keep telling her to call some of her other friends but she doesn't. I just wish I could take her on a holiday, not to impress her friends but to give her a nice memory of something fun she did this summer. I can't even give my kids a holiday. They sit around the house bored all summer. I don't think my son has even gone outside in a couple of days. I try to find things for them to do and I make them do chores. But we have no money and everything costs something. We don't have transit like a normal city because we live in a very small town under 10,000 people. Walking anywhere in the extreme heat would pretty much kill me. I get rashes from the heat and bad headaches too. I just can't tolerate heat like I used to.
There are no activities for teens here, believe me I've looked. And the activities that are available are too expensive for us. Usually I don't have a problem with this and think that kids even teens should be able to amuse themselves most of the time but today I just feel really defeated and down about it all. Probably perimenopause kicking my butt again. It's just really hard to watch your kids suffer when they've done nothing to deserve it.
I'm going back to reading my book and burying my head in the garden because there isn't a dam thing I can do about any of this other than cry. I'll be turning on my job search again even if it most likely will be in vain.
No one wants to come over here for a sleep over because my daughter's room is so small and the ceiling so steep that it's not particularly comfortable to hang out in her room. There is no where else to be in this house other than the small living room but that's where I am and sometimes her dad too. What teen wants to hang out with parents?
And all the other girls are doing fun things this summer but my daughter isn't. She's been sitting around the house for over a week now pretty bored. I keep telling her to call some of her other friends but she doesn't. I just wish I could take her on a holiday, not to impress her friends but to give her a nice memory of something fun she did this summer. I can't even give my kids a holiday. They sit around the house bored all summer. I don't think my son has even gone outside in a couple of days. I try to find things for them to do and I make them do chores. But we have no money and everything costs something. We don't have transit like a normal city because we live in a very small town under 10,000 people. Walking anywhere in the extreme heat would pretty much kill me. I get rashes from the heat and bad headaches too. I just can't tolerate heat like I used to.
There are no activities for teens here, believe me I've looked. And the activities that are available are too expensive for us. Usually I don't have a problem with this and think that kids even teens should be able to amuse themselves most of the time but today I just feel really defeated and down about it all. Probably perimenopause kicking my butt again. It's just really hard to watch your kids suffer when they've done nothing to deserve it.
I'm going back to reading my book and burying my head in the garden because there isn't a dam thing I can do about any of this other than cry. I'll be turning on my job search again even if it most likely will be in vain.
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Do you knit or crochet or weave or quilt? Something like knitting or crochets wouldn't require much outlay in the way of cash to learn. Does she like to draw? Even if you can't teach her a craft, there are how-to books at the library that you both could pour over. Would anything like that work?
I think the most important thing in a child's life is to know they have a stable home life with parents that love them. Seems like you're doing a darn good job of providing that. It's gonna be okay, Momma!